So a question asked on our flirting article from Heather. She writes:
Thank you for the informative article on power flirting. It was very helpful. I was wondering if you had any information on what signals to look for to know when someone is flirtnig with you.
Thanks again,
Heather
I asked a good friend of mine to comment on this question as I would consider him an expert in the field of Flirting.  John writes:
Heather.. I am no expert on this subject. I dont think any male could even remotely come close, or we wouldnt be as silly as we are sometimes...=) I have however seen some definate signs of flirtation, in my days. I could sit and tell you lists of examples of men flirting, as well as women. But I think the single, most important thing to keep in mind here is your eyes always tell the tale. No one can hide from the truth they know, and the eyes will always reveal that truth. If you suspect someone is attracted to you, you can always look there for the answer, regardless of how much they try to hide it. I hope this help you out a little!!
John
So eyes are an important part of flirting. Eye contact is always something to look for when negotiating a flirt session with your mate. We received some further feedback from Lyndsay who added some additional comments. Lyndsay writes:
One of the ways that work best is to subtlely mime your date. This type of body language shows them sub-consciously that you are very interested in them. An example is the way he/she is sitting. Don't make an obvious effort to mime that position, but rather non chalantly lean back if he is leaning back or cross your legs the same direction. If he takes a sip of wine, that is your cue to do the same. This body language tells them that "I am interested in you and only you". You can see this happening in a restaurant. Pick out a couple that looks romantic. Watch them, (not openly of course, that might be considered rude), notice that when they are eating and conversing the body movements are similar? We all do this at a certain level, but you can make your romance more intense at dinner by trying this technique. See what happens. It can't hurt after all.
Lyndsay
I had to make this observation for myself, and I found that in a lot of cases, those on a date do in fact have this behavior. Give it a try, as Lyndsay mentions, it couldn't hurt!
All in all, whether you think someone is interested in you or not, life is too short not to ask to confirm. Whether you are a guy or gal, by asking your potential mate if they would like to go on a date will certainly confirm whether there is interest. Just keep it simple the first date out and go from there.
Drew
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