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The question that is almost as famous as "What is the meaning of life?". We have all loved someone in our lives at some point, so we all have had experience with what the basics of love is. Whether that love be towards a parent, a friend, a high school fling, etc and each one of those relationships you might consider that a different form of love. So love in this form can be quite natural and quite frankly easy to fall into and maintain, but there is certainly a growing trouble of what love is when it relates to a girlfriend/boyfriend, fiancee or even your spouse. Why do people fall into love and why just as easily fall out of love. What is true love and why don't I have it? What is love and how do you achieve this type of love that only can be witnessed in the movies these days?
Love starts with affection of one human being toward another and true love only comes when both humans fall equally in love with each other. Now love can very quickly be confused with infatuation and many people quickly get themselves into trouble when they think they are in love, but in fact its simply infatuation. Infatuation is the excitement of something new, being with someone new, the newness of the person you are with. This infatuation can make you do things blindly that you would never ever consider doing. Infatuation puts blinders on your eyes and makes you extremely narrow focused and don't think once you have reached infatuation you will take notice. Friends will try to tell you, but you will ignore them. I don't have much advice for you once you reach infatuation with someone, because there is not much that anyone can do once you have dived head first into it. So I guess the best word of advice is try your best to take some time to really look at the sitatuation that you have fallen into and really take a hard look at where it might head years down the road. Don't make any rash decisions that you would have otherwise not made, like having sex. Love is patient and love is kind. Love does not say you have to have sex with me this friday night. If someone loves you, they will wait for you.
It all starts with you! You have the ability to do whatever you want in life and it all starts with today as the first step. True love is a wonderful thing, its the comfort you have daily in your relationship to know that your mate loves you more than life itself, not just by what they say but the actions that they take towards you. The words "I love you" are so cheap and so many people say it day in and day out, but the rubber meets the road when actions meet reality. Your mate needs to show you that you are special in their life and I don't mean flowers and chocolates every night. A simple love note on the way out the door, mixing your spouse an unexpected hot cup of chocolate on a cold winter night. The simple little things in life that show you that they care.
Love comes with trust, respect and integrity. Love is the ability to truly trust your mate 100% to where you can honestly say deep down inside that your mate is true to you. Love is respecting your mate as a human being to where you can each live gracefully in each others presence 100% of the time. Love is having integrity amongst each other to keep secrets, be truthful in all that you do, and be honest with your mate when its time to be honest and to tell little white lies when it will make your mate feel better about themselves.
Love is a wonderful thing and you are the only one who can detect it because love is not the same thing for everyone, but a few things remain consistant. Human beings love to feel important to others and the comfort that comes out of a love of two people can make for an amazing life. People are not perfect and the realization of this and the acceptance of this is a part of being in love. The question you have to ask yourself is do you feel that you are in love? If not, then what are you going to do today to change that?
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| Posted By Drew at 7:18:40 PM EST |
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