It's not flowers, or candy or even his stomach. Men today are not looking for the same things their fathers did. Time has changed their demands and needs in many ways. In some ways they want the same things as centuries past. But modern times and the always changing definitions of their role in society has created new opportunities to capture men's hearts.

The enterprising young woman will seize upon these opportunities to foster her loved ones' admiration forever. Here we will attempt to list some common qualities that will endear you to most men. However, all men are different and will react to different qualities. Use this section as a guide to figuring out what makes your man tick and you may be led in a direction you may not have thought of before.

If your man has some common keys we may not have thought of, please me and share your wisdom with the world. If you find the keys below do open some doors to his heart, let us know of your experiences as well.

Realize that Men Think Differently: The actual structure of a man's brain is different from that of a woman's. No, this isn't going to be a male bashing joke. The membrane that separates the two lobes of the brain is thicker than that of a woman's. This isn't to say that men are thickheaded, just thick membraned. Essentially this means that women tend to have more crossovers between the two lobes of the brain, one housing the logical cognitive powers, the other the intuitive, emotional and creative powers. This is why the two sexes can see the exact same events in totally different ways.

Have you ever asked yourself how a man could behave "that way" in a particular situation that caused you a lot of emotional pain? The answer lies in his way of thinking. Men are emotional beings, but they are inherently and socially predisposed to denying, hiding and masking their feelings. Society (this means women too) has taught them not to be emotional. Being emotional isn't tough. It isn't masculine. Throw into the mixture that the two sides of their brains don't link their emotional thoughts too well with their logical thoughts, and you end up with a man's way of thinking. It isn't wrong. It's just different. If you try harder to understand his way of thinking, without condemnation, he will recognize you as a superior woman, very different from others. Most of the arguments and disagreements between the sexes are born out of not understanding how the other sex is viewing a situation. What is a major thing to a woman, seems like a minor one to a man. If both sexes realize this, they can work together to meet each other half way.

Mind the Male Ego: Too much of anything is almost always a bad thing. Most people notice ego when there is an over abundance of it, but pay it little heed when someone has it in normal levels. Many women unjustly feel that the male ego is fragile. It's actually more accurate to say that the male ego is very important to their identity. It has a lot to do with their frequent use of it. Ego often helps define their own feelings of self worth as a man. Without it they probably wouldn't have even asked you out, or if you asked, wouldn't have accepted.

The male ego can be a woman's best friend if she understands it better. This isn't implying that you have to falsely bolster a man's ego with insincere praise. That can sometimes be taken as condescending, thus having the opposite effect as desired. Rather, it is best to point out to your man their strengths. Like women, men often need to hear these things. Unlike women, they don't really know, or just can't admit that they need to hear them.

People stay in relationships because of the positive way their lovers make them feel. If you don't nurture your man's ego, someone else may volunteer.

Enforce the No Nagging Rule: And you will demonstrate a quality that he will treasure about you. Both men and women nag their mates, but men seem to be particularly susceptible to negative reactions to it. No woman wants to take on the role of a surrogate mother to their mate, but if allowed to develop into a pattern, nagging will surely equate you to this and sap the romance right out of the relationship.

Don't Forget the Role of Sex!: Men are often accused of being animals because they do tend to like sex. Women tend to like sex as well, but more so when there is an emotional level to it. While it may seem that is less important to men, we ask you to remember the differences in the way men think. Men are taught from childhood that the expression of emotion is taboo. When having sex though, it is perfectly acceptable, even desired by their partners, for them to show emotions in a physical way. This is perhaps the only socially acceptable way for a man to express his emotions, intimacy and desires on this level.

If it were true that 'all men want is sex', then why wouldn't prostitution be legal in this country? It's not like men don't outnumber women in the halls of government. Why spend $50 on a date and hope you get lucky when you could spend it on a prostitute who's a sure thing? The reason is because you can't be intimate with a prostitute. They won't love you, they'll only pretend for an hour if you pay them some money. They don't really care about you. They won't share your life with you. They basically won't give a man the love and intimacy he craves in one of the few ways he feels he can express it.

No, it's not a red Lamborghini and tons of cash. Well ofcourse, that probably wouldn't hurt, but for most of us we'll just have to rely on other aspects of our personality to gain those warm fuzzy feelings from our mates. Here we've attempted to compile various qualities that have been know to make women's pulse quicken. The object of your desire will probably not respond to all, but most women will only need one or two keys to open the door to their hearts. After all, they are already dating you so they must like something about you. Search and play with a few things and see what is right for you and your dating situation you are in, and decide what works best for you.

We would like to invite women to send in their own suggestions so we all can benifit from your experience too. Tell these men what qualities you truly adore. Help them to become better men. Perhaps even super-men. Cape not required. Please email me with your suggestions.

You care about them: Sounds pretty obvious, doesn't it. All too often, most men never demonstrate or remind their love that they truly do care. They need to know that you are interested in who they are and what they feel. Do you listen to what she has to say? Do you care what she has to say? Remember that women tend to be more intuitive than men, so faking it won't cut it. What qualities originally attracted you to this woman besides the physical? If you don't have an answer, she probably senses it already. Sex is a wonderful gift of nature, but it's not the only reason to be in a relationship. The bond of sharing, caring and understanding can grow quite strong between a man and a woman. Revel in this strength. Take it with you wherever you go and appreciate her all the more for it.

You're an honest man with integrity: Men underestimate the importance of honesty in a relationship. Most men have been caught in some sort of lie at some point in their life, and they were seemingly forgiven by the women in their lives. Trust is perhaps the single most important quality a man can foster. Without it, a woman will often harbor negative thoughts toward her mate. She'll never quite be sure when to trust them. When trust is gone, so is most of the romance. Even little white lies can have an accumulative effect. They'll leave her wondering why it is so easy for you to lie to them, and what else might you be lying about. The truth should always be exhibited. A word of caution here though. As mother always said, if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In other words, don't use the truth to be hurtful, whether intended or unintended. Negative thoughts that won't be received constructively, are best kept to yourself.

Is there really such a thing as a soulmate in love and relationships?

Before we dive into the topic of having a soulmate, I want to explore the definition of what it means to be a soulmate and also take a look at where this mysterious connection with another human being in this world was born. 

First of all, let’s take a look at the accepted definition of the word soulmate from the Merriam-Webster dictionary.  The dictionary states that a soulmate means “a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs”.  That definition is somewhat bland and mentions nothing about true love with another human being.  So therefore let’s navigate over to Reference.com and we will find that soulmate takes on a new life there.  Reference.com states that a soulmate is “a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity…”, followed by “…which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join…”

It’s quite a thought to think about the idea that in this world of over 6 billion people that there is just one other that is your soul mate.  You must think that the chances of finding that one person might be almost impossible.  Don’t get too scared just yet.  Let’s explore where this concept came from originally. 

To my surprise the concept of a soulmate has been around for not just centuries, but rather thousands of years.  It can be dated back as far as the ancient Greeks and your friend and mine Plato.  The quest of finding one’s soulmate is presented by Aristophanes in Plato's Symposium, a philosophical account written by Plato sometime after 385 BC.  His theory is that human beings were once joined together physically giving them 4 arms and 4 legs with one head with 2 faces.  However Zeus, the son of a greek God, feared the coming together of two souls as too powerful of an entity so Zeus broke the connection leaving souls to wonder earth desperately seeking connection with their “soulmate”.

As a human being we are capable of loving many people.  We love our friends, parents, grand parents, brothers, sisters and children.  Each of these people we form a variety of types of love for them and this love can be true and real.  So can we have more than one soul mate?  Well we can certainly have intimate relationships with people who both collectively find that they love each other and it can go significantly beyond the infatuation stage so why not multiple potential soul mates? 

The problem that we face in society is that regardless of whether soulmates is a real thing or not, if folks actually believe that a soulmate is a real thing, they might find themselves becoming very disappointed in life.  No person is perfect and in life you will eventually find yourself in difficult times.  Every person goes through it and it’s almost unavoidable.  It’s those people who truly believe in soulmates that when these indifferences and diffulties evolve in their relationships, they immediately begin to push away their mate with the conclusion that this can’t possibly be my soul mate because he/she is not perfect in all respects of my perspective on the matter. 

Despite the reality of a soulmate, please don’t spend your life chasing something that might never come.  There is a growing population of folks in their 30s, 40s and 50s that are finding out that now that their physical appearance is fading and their getting older, that special one has not come knocking on their door yet.  Listen up folks, life is not perfect and your spouse will not be perfect either.  Whether forwarded admitted or secretly held within, there will be areas that you can’t change about your loved one that will make them somewhat shy of perfection, but that’s ok because people are not perfect. 

Don’t spend your entire life looking for someone who most likely doesn’t exist because we all know that no one is perfect.  Look for the best in people and find someone who fits your soul quite well and open up to the possibility that this relationship could develop into something great.  Don’t immediately push someone out of your lives because they have a fault.  Frankly, you have many faults whether you realize it or not.  Don’t reach the reach old age and alone wondering what happened to life, because there is so much more to life when you can build a future with a spouse in your life.

Well in today’s world all that has changed and personals ads are now extremely robust and customizable to suit your individual needs and sometimes they are even free like our free dating site FriendPad.com. Despite all this, the concept of building a personal ad remains the same. If you follow the free advice that I am about to explain below, creating a personal ad should not be difficult. You will increase your chances at meeting the man or woman of your dreams.

First of all, each dating site has a different set of dating profile options that you can use. Regardless of the available dating features, this word of advice remains the same. Fill out the profile in its entirety. There is nothing worst than coming to a profile that someone half heartedly filled out. Chances are the visitor to your profile will certainly think that this person is also half heartedly interested in dating in the first place and they are not taking their personal ad seriously.

Next, be polite in your profile and don’t point out negative experiences with past dates and or intimate partners. This will only cloud the new relationship from the start if it should get that far to begin with.

A picture is worth a thousands words. I swear this saying was put together just for dating sites and personal ads. You MUST put a picture of yourself on your personal ad profile. In fact, put 20 photos of yourself on your personal ad. The more photos you place online, the better chance someone will stick around and gain interest in you. This is critical. You might as well not ever try without a picture.

English People! Please be careful to complete sentences and fill out your profile intelligently. I mean who wants to meet someone that comes off as unintelligent. Just be careful that you are presenting the correct image of yourself. Write in a format that fully describes what you are all about as a person in your personal ad. Be descriptive on what your likes and dislikes are and experiences that you may have had in life already. This is important in striking a connection with folks reading your dating profile. 

Don’t Lie! This is also very important. Relationships are built on trust and when you lie, the lie will certainly be uncovered down the road which will lead to a break in trust and relationship. No matter how painful be honest in your singles profile. If you feel passionate about a subject, don’t hide it. If you are really into your religion, be honest about it. It may even help you find a match that better suits you.

Be patient! Your knight and shining armor or your princess may not stop by your profile over night. Keep at it and if you do, that special someone will pass by your profile soon enough.  Also, be sure to reply to people trying to make contact with you. You may only have a small amount of time to make contact before they loose interest on their end. 

All and all, be honest, be safe, write a great personal and be patient as your future love comes knocking at your door. Good Luck to all of you in creating your personal ads!