Sex is flirting outrageously and still remembering that the person at your side is not obligated to do anything more. It's respect.

Sex is an imperfection in yourself not bothering you. It's acceptance.

Sex is passing up an opportunity because the time isn't right yet. It's patience.

Sex is a back rub that starts above the hairline and ends arouind the insoles. It's exploration.

Sex is not having to say "let's make love", because youknow what the other person wants. It's understanding.

Sex is being given a honest chance to say no when you thought you were committed. It's consideration.

Sex is both of you remembering protection. It's responsibility.

Sex is saying the perfect phrase to make a solemn embrace dissolve into giggles. It's humor.

Sex is being told "stop and you'll be in trouble". It's desire.

Sex is reviewing the damage to your living room and realizing personal effects are strewn in a clockwise pattern from the front door to the bedroom. It's abadonment.

Sex is seeing what your lover really looks like after the first time. It's truth.

Sex is knowing what time it is and not caring. It's joy.

Sex is the arms aroung you tightening their embrace. It's ecstasy. Sex is seeing a new side of a person you thought you knew. It's renewal.

Sex is telling a person if you have to leave, you will let her, sleep, and being told she would rather be woken. It's tenderness.

Sex is being there to wake your lover. . .slowly. It's sensuous.

Sex is two people only taking up a third of a queen sized bed. It's closeness.

Sex is knowing you gave the extra key to your apt. to the right person. It's trust.

Sex is saying goodbye and knowing you will be back by mutual consent. It's faith.

Sex is stretching your arms and idscovering the real menaing of the word "sore". It's a lesson in human frailty.

Sex is opening your medicine cabinet and finding your tube of toothpaste turned into a pretzel. It's adapting.

Sex is sitting at the window, looking out and remembering who you were with the night before. It's reflection.

Sex is hearing the weather for a winter storm and wishing you could spend it in bed with your lover. It's loneliness. 

The survey anonymously polled over one thousands (1,000) users of the free online dating site FriendPad.com over a 2 month period. “This is a shocking discovery in today’s dating marketplace and specifically the insight into the interests in the folks coming to FriendPad.com today.” said Drew the site’s sole operator. Sex has become a staple of the dating world and more and more people are jumping on the band wagon as the media continues on its path to make sex the cool thing to do whether you are in a relationship or not. 

These results are in sharp contrast to other studies that have been conducted in the past. For example, a study conducted by YouGov on behalf of Craigslist about UK singles stated that “If I like someone on a first date, I would rather end the date with a nice cup of tea, coffee or other warm drink than by spending the night with them.” However, on the other hand studies have shown that women in particular are letting down their guard more than they would have just a few years ago. For example, a study done by The University of Texas School of Public Health showed that out of 740 women who were polled, 30% admitted to having sex on a first date.

Despite our alarming research, I think it’s safe to say that Sex is in and its here to stay and from the looks at it the folks at FriendPad.com are quite the promiscuous bunch of people.  From shear numbers, you have a greater chance this year of having sex on your first date than you did last year. It’s a growing trend that will most likely continue to grow as the media continues to break down the guilt that previous generations have built up.

FriendPad.com is a 100% free online dating site and is based in Cleveland, Ohio United States.

So you want to know “How to Kiss?” Well the answer is never an easy one and it may be slightly different for everyone, but I can give you some general guidance to follow if you are venturing out on your first kiss. 

The question of how to kiss normally comes from the younger crowd so this article will delve into the basics of that first kiss. What to expect and what not to do, etc.

I should also point out that there is a difference between a first date kiss and what some might call “making out”. Let’s talk about the first date kiss. Unless you are getting an overabundant feeling that your date wants to go take in the sights at the local secluded make out spot, you will want to default to the typical walk her to the front door at the end of the date and as you recount the great time you guys just had, you say your good bye and we will be in touch, give her a brief kiss on either her cheek or lips. Always remember that you close your eyes when you kiss. Just imagine your mate openly their eyes during a kiss and seeing you staring blankly into her face. Not a good idea.

I have to warn you here gentlemen that it’s always a safe bet to give her a kiss on her cheek. You will have to be certain that she is prepared to receive a kiss on her lips. Women relate a kiss on their lips as an intimate gesture and if your mate is not ready to dive from friendship into something else, this could be an indicator to her that things are progressing too quickly for her liking and could lead her to push you away. Remember guys, there is always tomorrow to move further with your mate so don’t force something that isn’t right for the both of you. If you hone in on her body language towards you, you should have some idea whether she is open to going to the next step.

If the first kiss leads to more kissing, go with it. Keep in mind that you should keep pace with you mate. If your mate is taking their time and enjoying the experience, don’t hurry her along. Be gentle, kind, soft and passionate. The first kiss is always a negotiation between each others limits at that very moment in time. Give your mate time to negotiate with you and feel comfortable with where they have just gone before moving further along. 

With kissing, touch always comes into play. If you begin kissing, touch always follows to enhance that intimate closeness and coming together. Begin with something safe like your mate’s shoulders, hands, arms and then move to your mate’s back, etc… It’s always good to begin touching in areas that are so called “safe” areas. Places that if you touched someone you didn’t know, they wouldn’t immediately give you a swift kick for doing so or otherwise stated as non-intimate zones. Examples of non-intimate zones are your mate’s hands, shoulders, arms and maybe the upper back. On the other hand, examples of more intimate zones are your mate’s neck, face, hair, lower back or back side, legs, etc… 

If you have been thinking about a relationship with a Libra, you might want to make sure you are ready for this type of soul. His or her birthday occurs between September 23 and October 22.

Patience – A Libra likes to take their time to ensure they are making the right decision, so that means don’t rush them into anything. That will only push them away.

Infatuation – Even though Libra’s tend to really think through their decisions in life and you need to have patience with this, however when it comes to love they tend to dive right into love and are very susceptible to infatuation which could lead you to a quick marriage. If you don’t believe in divorce, you might want to slow your Libra down and be sure that it’s right enough to introduce marriage.

Conflict – Libras do not like conflict so if it is common for your to argue about nothing, then you might want to save it as a Libra will not be comfortable committing to someone who causes conflict and fights with them often.

Problem Solver – Your Libra is a problem solver and if you have issues in life your Libra will want to be involved in helping you fix them. If you are the type that like to vent your problems but ultimately want to be independent of actual help, then your Libra is going to get very frustrated with you. You must allow you Libra into your problems and allow them to help you carry the weight of that problem.

Organized - A Libra is very organized and likes a well balanced and organized environment to live in. Be prepared for this if you are not well kept at home because you both will drive each other crazy if you don’t prepare yourself for this. 

Balance – Like I mentioned above, a Libra likes a well balanced life and that includes everything in its place. More importantly, they value very strongly the idea that you keep a well balanced life, between family, friends, work, etc. If you are a workaholic or you’re a lazy couch potato, maybe a Libra is not for you.

Socialization – Libras like to socialize. They enjoy being out and about with people and hate being alone. Be sure to give them enough space to mingle with their friends and family as it’s a natural occurrence for them. If you want your Libra all for yourself, you might want to go elsewhere. 

A letter from one of our readers:

Here is the reality of the situation.  Most women like the "chase" they are given.  A man becomes exciting to women for a variety of reasons.  It may be their looks that push women over the edge, the man could create some level of mystery which creates curiosity in women or the man might just have that knack that creates a mode of needing to chase the man because he is exciting to the women.  The excitement, adventure and even danger creates this chase for the women.

In most women’s eyes, a man as you describe is somewhat boring.  Whether women admit it or not, they like the unexpected, the uncertainty of the moment which creates excitement, adventure and potentially even danger.  You need to get a women’s heart pumping and you will slide yourself right into her love.   Remember, a knight in shining armor is not what you describe.  People refer to the knight in shining armor because they are mysterious, adventurous, brave, daring and most likely handsome.  They will in a moment risk their life to conquer great fights over barren terrain all in the honor of saving their bride from the burning castle tower.  That’s exciting and enough to get any women’s heart racing.  What you describe is safe and usual or in other words, the average Joe and most women tend to like having average Joe's as friends and not lovers.    You can’t just be an average Joe.

So let’s get back to reality, how does this relate to you?  Confidence!   Don’t be shy in anything you do or your mate will not view you as their knight.  You may think that you are not shy, but the fact that you mention it tells me it exists.  You must posses a high level of confidence and you must rid yourself from being shy in anything that you do.  Always have your own opinion and be strong in your convictions.  With confidence in everything you do, you will automatically create the mystery around you and will work toward winning the feelings of your mate.  Opening a car door is nice, but getting on an airplane and jumping out while you hold hands with your mate is exciting.  I am not saying you need to jump from an airplane, but everyone has their things in life that get their heart pumping.  Be adventurous, be unexpected, be creative, be spontaneous and most of all be confident.  

Drew is the creator of FriendPad.com, the free online dating site.

For those that are still in school, one of the best methods to meet people in school is through actually studying together.  Whether that is a one on one regular study session with another class mate, a group project or a regular study group.  This is a perfect situation where everyone is working together for an extended period of time toward the same goal and that is to all learn the topic at hand. 

Studies have shown that especially one on one studying with the opposite sex actually arouses each others sexual desire.  Even if you originally thought that you would never expect to form an emotional bond with your study partner, you might be surprised as of what happens if your meetings become regular. 

Of course, don’t rush anything.  You will want to become good friends with the person and then once it appears the connection is growing, take it to the next level by inviting the study partner out to a movie, club and/or dinner to talk further about subjects not related to school. 

This section will not address safe sex.  Rather, our goal here is to show both men, but especially women, how to enjoy your dating experiences without fear of running into some whacko. Here you'll find some basic safety tips that your parents will surely appreciate your reading. Men will find this section helpful as well. Almost any man has sisters or female friends he may want to share this information with. They can also use this information, suggesting these items themselves, in an effort to make their dates feel more comfortable meeting with them for the first time.

Some of these tips are just common sense, but they bear repeating. They primarily cover your first few dates with someone as this is when we learn who a person truly is. By making sure you don't place yourself in unsafe situations, you save yourself from the probability of a few scary experiences.

It's important to point out that most men are safe, honorable gentlemen. It is not these types to be wary of, but the few predatory weirdos out there who should never be given a chance to succeed.